As I sit down to write the first journal entry of hopefully many more to come, I’ve realised something quite remarkable. Whilst it maybe our first, it will likely be our most important and could be considered an overarching principal and part introduction to the many more thought provoking and specific editorials we hope to bring you in the future.
Now that I’ve elevated the task at hand - I will get straight to the point.
The newly coined phrase ‘’self love’’ has become a familiar one and we are often reminded of such whether it be from social media, friends or the latest app on mindfulness.
I consider that self-care can mean different things to each of us and is likely a lifelong process as we learn to adjust boundaries for ourselves, relationships and family. For some it can be exercise, beach days, taking a long bath, or reading a book that helps evoke a positive emotion, calm or an element of growth as an individual.
On the other hand some of you could be reading this thinking - ye right - if only I had the time? Work, kids, relationships take over us all at point and time for yourself is often neglected or near impossible to find or just another thing to figure out.
For different reasons we can be forced into action, as we navigate life events such as relationship break-ups, illness or the loss of a loved one which can lead us to slow down and find that discovery.
It’s how many of us here at the edit started our self love journey with relationship break ups taking the No. 1 spot.
After the shock (sometimes) upset and haze of a breakup whether we intend it or not we all bounce back eventually! Personally, I had the help of a book called ‘’Love yourself like your life depends on it’’. Inside, a beautiful handwritten note from my dear friend to me. x The very least I could do of course was to open the first page? Sure, and so I did just that.
Immersed in self love practices - life truly can start to love you back. Once out of the woods a.k.a. over the break-up, how do you find time for it all? To practice a certain commitment to yourself daily.
For me, I did what most women do well - I multi-tasked. I combined the practices of self love I had learnt with my evening cleansing routine. It has become my go to ‘’ritual’’ that I find easy to stay committed to.
Others may choose to do it in the car, at the gym or through full meditation - the key is finding what works for you. What I do know is that it requires a certain level of commitment, just as skincare does to realise the full benefits. So, combining the two made perfect sense to me.
Every evening, I close the bathroom door mentally and physically to work, kids, husband and I stand tall in front of the mirror, and I just breathe - deeply.
I cannot remember a time where I have not reached for my favourite Votary Rose Geranium and Apricot Cleansing Oil - it is the perfect cleanser for my little ritual whilst removing everything from mascara (even waterproof) spf, and daily grime with ease and my skin loves it so much it glows.
I kickstart my ritual with a breathing technique. Breathing deeply for 5 seconds (I smell the heavenly scent of rose and geranium) holding for 5 seconds, then exhale, 3 times over - letting go and the day’s events, any negativity and stresses with each exhale.
Whilst I massage my cleanser into my skin I reaffirm the self-love teachings I picked up and make a mental not of all the things I am grateful for in life - my gratitude list.
If time allows I pick up my Heart - Self Love Gu Sha tool and smooth over my face - helping lift, stimulate and support lymphatic drainage.
I always remove every last drop cleanser, daily grime from from face with a fluffy face cloth, my favourite way to cleanse.
Feeling calmer for the 5-10 minutes I have taken for myself whilst applying my evening skincare routine I feel happy that I have made a small investment in me and that my skin will thank me for it.
With a little bit of self-love and care I know I am better equipped at dealing with whatever life throws at us.
Wishing you health and happiness.
Books Author Kamal Ravikant
A quote “As you love yourself and life will love you back”,
Image: Arabella Preston - Votary Co-Founder.